Wisdom quotes

the ego is not the enemy !! stop hating on it!!  individuation is a necessary step in healthy development

"dismantling a cocoon doesn't make the butterfly develop any faster"⬇️

Love without boundaries is self-abandonment. Loving someone is indistinguishable from honoring your own needs.

I can’t tell you how many times I’ve seen someone confuse codependency with love. If you need someone to be a certain way, it’s not love. 

Being codependent is just…

One of the biggest lessons I learned was that I’m not being empathetic when I’m agreeing with someone’s story— I’m empathetic when I’m present with how they feel.

I can empathize with someone feeling like a victim without agreeing that they are a victim.

the reason to share your creations publicly isn’t to convince the world that you are brilliant, it is to show yourself that it is safe to be seen

For people who are very self-reliant/high-agency, allowing the feeling of helplessness is one of the most powerful pathways to feeling supported and not alone in your problems. 

My definition of helplessness: Experiencing that there's nothing you can do to change the outcome.

Today I learned about a term called a "lifequake," a significant and unexpected shift in the trajectory of your life that initially feels devastating but has the beneficial outcome of catalyzing personal growth, transformation and rebirth.

this morning I woke up to a message from probably the most based professor at Harvard:

"Most of you will not believe what I am about to tell you, which is that no one is in need of being saved, and you are not able to save anyone. If you were to believe these words, your entire…

“All great and precious things are lonely.”

— John Steinbeck

You cannot love fully unless you also see that you are completely empowered.   

It is near impossible to love what you think oppresses you.

Enjoyment is the best metric for efficiency. 

Most people think that getting things done quickly is efficient, but a fast car is not always the most efficient car. The way you know that it took the least amount of energy to get things done is how much you enjoyed it.

I believe that life exists to be enjoyed and that the most important thing is to feel good about yourself. 

Each person will have his or her own vehicles for both, and those vehicles will change over time. For some, the answer will be working with orphans, and for others, it…

"Perfection is impossible.

In the 1,526 singles matches I played in my career, I won almost 80% of those matches.

But what percentage of points did I win?  

54%

In other words, even top ranked tennis players win barely more than half the points they play. 

When you lose ever…