it's all meaningful, it's all meaningless—it's all beautiful

healing trove

"Surrender to what is. Let go of what was. Have faith in what will be."

the subtle posture that has taken a lot of experimentation and failure to cultivate is like

1. realize that most people won’t get you or understand or care
2. be at peace with that, not bitter or vindictive, and look past them for the “few” that get it, and care

“I'm sure there are aspects of my personality buried within me that will surface as soon as I know I am completely loved.”

― Jerzy Kosiński, The Devil Tree

Efforts that invest in your future—decorating your space, buying clothes u like, practicing a skill, taking care of/building your body, figuring out a health problem, socializing, getting organized—signal to your psyche that you have a future to look forward to, making it true

you can do a lot if you stop spending any energy berating yourself about (or justifying) why you haven’t done it yet. guilt (and the attendant defensiveness) is an energy leak

Your two minutes of inspiration of the day

We think of ourselves as solitary and distinct, but in the end we’re all interdependent. The paradox is that acknowledging that you’re affected by others makes you a more confident and capable person. If you try to pretend you need nobody but yourself you’ll always be paranoid, untrusting, unwilling to let your guard down. Believe in a version of you that loves yourself, but also needs be loved by others. Then go out and find the love you deserve.

“Be patient toward all that is unsolved in your heart and try to love the questions themselves, like locked rooms and like books that are now written in a very foreign tongue. Do not now seek the answers, which cannot be given you because you would not be able to live them. And the point is, to live everything. Live the questions now. Perhaps you will then gradually, without noticing it, live along some distant day into the answer.” ― Rainer Maria Rilke

3. realize that even the # of people in 2, if it’s 0.01% of people, is millions of people. the world is big

4. nonetheless, try to treat everyone with respect and never *presume* that they’re “not going to get it”. ppl need time and space to figure stuff out

For the record: put your attention in the belly, towards every moment and every hour of the day, during all and everything. It will change your life, and you will feel like you have arrived, like you're at home wherever you are, and like there's no place you'd rather be

A person who hates herself for smoking will not be able to quit smoking. A person who hates themselves for procrastinating will not be able to fix their problem by reading a bunch of “life hacks”.

How would you feel if you didn’t try to please anyone at all?

What women want to see are men with intention. Intention with your life, your work, your relationships, your dreams, with your physical body. Intention creates assertive, confident men that make women feel safe.

In the absence of self-love we self-flagellate, which is unconscionably damaging. We become victims of broken homes INSIDE OUR OWN HEADS.

According to the teachings of the Buddhist Master Ajahn Chah, if a practitioner is still filled with doubts and uncertainties in one's meditation, it’s likely because one may have strayed from proper practice. 

The Buddha urged His disciples, including Ananda, to practice…

you advocate for the Ideal by embodying it first, not by talking about it first. nothing discredits you more than not embodying what you believe but speaking authoritatively about it

It’s so useful to remind your brain the kind of thoughts to think. Being able to orient yourself to think clearly, critically, and positively when necessary is lifesaving.