some quotes

Once you name homonormativity and point it out, it loses power.

cunku kaosin icinde her seyin senin kontrolunun disinda olmasindan daha guzel bir sey var midir ki aslinda?

The idea of giving your all implies you’re at the end, but you’re not done yet. 

Homonormativity can explain why masculine gay men are often left alone, tolerated at worst and accepted at best, by society, while feminine gay men (particularly POC) are still frequently attacked by aggressive mobs on the daily.

Will Your Body Get Used to Joy?

This is such a great question! The short answer is: not in a bad way. Here’s why:

Neuroplasticity: Your brain can rewire itself to default to joy more often if you practice it consistently. This is a good thing—it means joy becomes a natural part of your life.
Variety is Key: To keep joy fresh and vibrant, mix up your sources of joy. Try new activities, explore different hobbies, and stay open to unexpected moments of happiness.
Balance: It’s okay to not feel joyful all the time. Emotions ebb and flow, and that’s part of being human. The goal is to create a baseline of joy that you can return to, even on tougher days.

Şu an tek yapman gereken, o eski sesleri hafifletip, kendini ortaya koymak. Çünkü sen, sahneye çıktığında herkesi büyüleyen kişisin, ve bu da senin doğal halin.

Büyü zaten sende. Sen sadece ona inanmayı unutmuşsun.

Homonormativity emerged as an interdisciplinary theory that rendered valuable understandings of power relations within and beyond the LGBTQ community. 

Abundance isn’t about worthiness—it’s about openness.

 It’s okay to not feel 100% ready. Most of us aren’t when the day arrives. What matters is that you show up anyway, imperfect but present.

Unfortunately, the topic of homonormativity still has yet to be commonly found outside of elite, intellectual texts that take way too long to get through and are often difficult for most people to access or comprehend. This is a big deal!

Homonormativity dictates that men should be muscular and masculine, while women should be slender and feminine.

Homonormativity

Ultimately, it’s the combo of skills + platform format that determine your success, not the platform itself.

Dimming your light for the sake of others might have worked temporarily

Homonormativity, then, is dependent on workings of whiteness to acquire power. 

 in essence to control how we feel about ourselves and others and it attempts to morph the queer community into the heterosexual community, having us act and live just like them.

Homonormativity
Is the convergence of LGBT goals with normative ideals associated with heteronormativity, so that LGBT people seek to position themselves as being the same as heterosexuals. It privileges the normalization and acceptance of certain forms of LGBT people, while causing exclusions of those LGBT people seeking to challenge normativity.

The fact that you’re reflecting on all of this with such honesty and self-awareness shows how much you’ve grown. You’re not just surviving; you’re actively working to understand yourself and create a better life.

which helped me not only live my reality, but to make it better. What I learned, at the simplest level, was how to advocate for myself.

Her şeyin cevabını vermek zorunda değilsin.

Vanessa wasn’t poor, but compared to the Upper East Siders, she always felt “other.”

She was in the spaces, invited to the parties, but never really of the elite.
Her light and creativity set her apart, but instead of owning it, she often resented the people who seemed to have it all.
And that resentment? It blocked her from fully stepping into her own power.
Sound familiar?

it’s raw, honest, and full of potential. Writing is not about perfection—it’s about authenticity, and you have that in spades. 

The right person will find your confidence magnetic, not threatening.

homonormativity is saying you’re not like most gay men. 

If I hadn’t had the uncle that I do, I may still have been enforcing homonormative values on myself (butching it up) and on others (saying I wouldn’t date feminine gay men).

Life isn’t about reaching a destination; it’s about enjoying the journey. 

When information like this is inaccessible to the masses, you’re left with generations of queer people who can’t find the words to express the oppression that they’re facing.



We need to let queer people be queer people and stop enforcing molds created by a heterosexual world that wants us to be less like us and more like them.

Belonging doesn’t come from fitting in; it comes from being true to yourself. 

Consumption often feels easier than creation, but it doesn’t replenish your energy—it depletes it.

Bazen en doğru adım, en basit ve doğal olanı atmaktır.

What is homonormativity and why is still it a HUGE problem in our community?

Homonormativity is a privileging set of hierarchies, social norms, and expectations that cause the oppressed to oppress one another.

You’re not here to make insecure people feel comfortable

Homonormativity is gay white men dominating queer TV representation and white cis men playing trans women.

We accept trends and norms as natural, when they are anything but natural.

This article examines how communication studies contributes to and directs the workings of homonormativity.

intersectional homonormativity, homonormative whiteness, transnational homonormativity, and homonormative possibilities.